“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
~Laozi
When we physically injure ourselves, or become ill – we know that getting better might take some time. We know that we will have to go through the process, no matter how tiresome or difficult. The body will have it’s way.
Emotional healing is like that too. When we have been badly injured emotionally, psychologically, spiritually …. we go through a similar convalescence process to that we experience when we are physically hurt.
In the wake of family estrangement, relationship ruptures and cut-offs we may experience unbearable hurt, deep grief, guilt, self-loathing, fear, anger or frustration. We might feel these feelings one at a time, or all at once even! We may feel inconsolable. It might seem that nothing anyone else says or does can take us away from the edge of suffering. We may feel life isn’t worth living, or maybe we just feel numb, passionlessly disinterested in engaging with our lives.
This overwhelming discomfort will turn, given time, a whole bunch of self care and a bit of effort. Even without our assistance, Mother Nature will have her way with us, and the Wheel of Time will turn. No-thing stays the same.
Gradually we begin to notice the warmth of the sun, and tune back in to the sound of laughter. We take tentative, teetering steps toward acceptance and well-being. We feel ourselves smile, maybe for only a second or two, but then, for a little longer and a little more often. We have less bad days and more good ones. We find ourselves putting our energy into relationships with people who are giving their energy back to us. We let go of our pain and we quit clutching at relationships with people who cannot give us the things we want or need. We decide to heal. Eventually we are made anew by the irresistible challenges of life and relationship.
Healing and recovery are a process … a journey if you will. You know that.
So how come you are looking for quick fixes and trying to be anywhere but where you are?
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